Something Cookin'
I need some advice from you guys. A couple of months ago, I ran into a very old friend from my Elgin days (Jess, I told you about this) at the gym. By the way, I can bench over 225 lbs. Mary and I talked for awhile, catching up with news of our friends. In talking to her, I found out that Lauren (could, should, would of been the 1st g-friend) is a teacher at West Aurora High School. I have not spoken or seen this girl since 1996, my final semester at Elgin. The following Monday, I decided to look her up at the high school website and of course, her work email address is listed.
I am debating whether or not to drop a very casual email to just say hello. Would that be weird and creepy? Should I do it? Talking to Mary, reminded me of all the fun and care free times of being a freshman before embarking onto the journey of change. I would appreciate any input on this matter.
posted by Sauce @ 12:20 PM
7 Comments:
I'm sorry, Mark, but I'll have to modify your statement here. Although it would be more flattering to stop by the HS, it may be a flattery that seems out of place after almost a decade. Email may be a poor way to romance a woman, but it is most appropriate for arranging a catch-up meeting. Without knowing the type of person she may have become, be wary of setting yourself up for an awkward episode.
i'm with bito.
Def. email her first. You can say just what you told us, that you ran into a mutual friend who told you where Lauren was working, and you decided to look her up and say hi. It's a perfectly acceptable thing and NOT STALKERISH bcz someone else told you where she works, whereas Marks suggestion is way too stalkerish.
Besides, you don't know what's going on in her life right now; she may be married for all you know! You don't want jump into wooing a girl who's already married, do you? Casual re-acquaintance first. If that goes well, then you can stop by the school.
Jess, you hit it on the head. I am trying to avoid that stalkish factor. I know in the past there were moments where I could of been charged with stalking. I will hold off emailing her, until everybody gets a chance to comment on this post.
I'm with Bito and Jess. I think it's perfectly fine to e-mail and say hi as long as you do it in a manner that's like "hey, our friend mentioned where I could find you and I was thinking I'd say hi cause the old days were fun" or something like that. Definitely don't just show up....that's kinda creepy. Wait til you've had a few talks with her and she's confirmed that she'd like to see you and arrange a time and place and whatever.
Good luck John!!!!
EMAIL, FIRST. STALK LATER...
u know... after u find out she likes to play tennis, and after u see her with just a sports bra on... you're good at that stuff...
What mark says would be ok and NOT STALKERISH too. But that depends on whether there's actually any other highschool teachers there that you want to see.
Basically, it comes down to you having another reason to go there besides her, or you having a reason for looking her up and emailing her (i.e. your mutual friend telling you). Emailing her would only be stalkerish if you decided to hunt down information on where she lives and works all on your own.
I think i'd still email first. Since you already talked to Mary, Mary may turn around and tell Lauren she saw you and told you where L works. If that happens before you "casually show up" at the school and pretend like, "oh! you work here?! what a coincidence!" it could have disasterous results.
Honestly, there's nothing threatening or stalkerish about email. DO IT! It's your best bet!
~J
yeah, do it before we talk about this anymore... all this blog action on the topic of whether or not you should email or see her first... you got one foot across the stalker line already!
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